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A Likable Employee Knows this Secret (and Uses it to Get Ahead)

Admit it. You are either a likable employee or you want to be likable. How do I know? Because you are reading this post. And why wouldn’t you want to be liked?

What if I told you becoming a likable employee requires no magical power, no special skills, no throwing colleagues under the bus, no gossiping gimmick and no bullying tactics. Really?  

 

And now, you’re thinking: “what’s the secret?” Since you are in a rush, let’s get straight to it. Shall we?

The secret?

 

Likable employees know how to influence people. How? What I am trying to say is, likable employees are skilled at lifting their teammates up. They do their best to avoid hurting their colleagues’ feelings ​and pride.

 

Contrary to popular belief, criticizing your colleagues does not make you likable even if it might make you feel good about yourself.

 

 In fact, the famous lecturer and the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie, put us it this way, Criticism is dangerous because it puts people on the defensive and usually makes them strive to justify themselves. It wounds a person’s pride and sense of importance. It arouses resentment and only creates temporary change.”
 

But wait, there’s more.

 

Dale Carnegie also pointed this out, Telling people they are wrong sends a direct blow to their judgment, intelligence, pride and self-respect. That will never make them agree with you, it will only make them want to strike back.”  Did you get the point?

 

So, what can be done?

My friend, being likable is NOT for people who are self-centered, narcissistic, inconsiderate and weak.  

 

Here’s the bottom line.

Want to be more likable? Work on becoming more empathetic. For example, to quote Dale Carnegie one last time, “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”

 

Now my question is: ”Do you have what it takes to elevate the people you work with?”

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The coach
Coach Teddy Edouard develops Continuous Improvement(CI) processes and systems to help individuals and companies increase productivity, reach peak performance, maximize their impact, and save time, resources and energy.

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